Remember Your Rights
You are an equal member of the IEP team according to IDEA. If you do not understand something, pause and ask for an explanation. You can ask for time to review the completed document before agreeing when you are unsure about any part of the plan.
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
Before the Meeting
Make sure formal transition assessments (interest inventories, vocational tests) have been done.
Discuss post-secondary goals with your child (college, vocational school, independent living, employment).
Invite outside agencies (like vocational rehabilitation) to the meeting.
During the Meeting: Post-Secondary Goals
Are there specific, measurable post-secondary goals in education/training, employment, and independent living?
Are the current IEP goals directly supporting and building toward these post-secondary goals?
Ask: 'What specific transition services (e.g., job shadowing, travel training, college visits) will the school provide this year?'
During the Meeting: Graduation & Supports
Ask: 'Will my child be graduating with a standard diploma or a certificate of completion? How does this impact college eligibility?'
Make sure the Summary of Performance (SOP) is finished before graduation — your child will need it to get accommodations in college or at work.
🚩 Red Flags During the Meeting
Watch for these warning signs — they may indicate that important decisions need more discussion or documentation.
The school presents a 'finished' IEP for you to sign at the meeting
What to say:
Say: 'I appreciate the draft, but I'm an equal member of the IEP team under IDEA. I'd like to discuss each section before anything is finalized, and I need time to review the completed document before I agree.'
How the audit helps:
Our audit reviews whether parent concerns and important team decisions are documented clearly in the IEP.
The team rushes through the meeting and discourages questions
What to say:
Say: 'I need more time to understand this section. Can we slow down? If we need to schedule a continuation meeting, that's my right under IDEA.'
How the audit helps:
Upload your IEP after the meeting to identify written sections that may still need clarification.
An administrator who doesn't know your child makes placement decisions
What to say:
Say: 'With respect, you haven't worked with my child. I'd like to hear from the people who interact with them daily — the teacher and therapists — before we discuss placement.'
How the audit helps:
We check whether placement decisions in the IEP are supported by the evaluation data and Present Levels.
The school says 'we don't do that here' when you request a service or accommodation
What to say:
Say: 'Under IDEA, the IEP is based on my child's needs — not what the school currently offers. If you're refusing this request, I need that in a Prior Written Notice with your reasoning.'
How the audit helps:
Our audit flags service language that may be vague, missing, or disconnected from documented needs.
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