
"I've sat at over 500 IEP tables."
I'm Mary, a Special Education Advocate and the founder of The Advocate Ally. I created this special education resource because too many parents feel pressured to accept generic, "cookie-cutter" IEPs.
The guidance below is grounded in the same practical, document-based questions I raise in IEP meetings every day. Use it to ask for clearer, more individualized support for your child.
Mary
Founder, The Advocate Ally
What's Happening
You asked the school to test your child for a disability. They said no—either verbally or in writing. Maybe they told you to 'wait and see,' or said your child is 'doing fine.'
Your Legal Rights
Under IDEA, you can request an evaluation when you suspect your child may need special education. The school should respond to the proposal or refusal through the required written notice process.
- You have the right to request an evaluation in writing at any time.
- The school must respond with a Prior Written Notice (PWN) within a reasonable time.
- You have the right to an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) at public expense if you disagree with the school's evaluation.
- You can file a state complaint or request due process if the school refuses without valid justification.
What To Do Right Now
Put your request in writing. Email the principal and the Director of Special Education. Say: 'I am formally requesting an evaluation under IDEA for [child's name].'
If the school refuses, request Prior Written Notice (PWN). This notice should explain the reason for refusal.
Request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) at the school's expense.
If they still refuse, file a state complaint with your Department of Education or request a Due Process hearing.
Don't Go Into This Blind
Before you send a letter or file a complaint, start with the written IEP. The audit can flag documented gaps, weak language, and sections that may deserve a written question or closer professional review.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can the school refuse to evaluate my child?
How long does the school have to respond?
What is an Independent Educational Evaluation?
Review the document before you escalate
Upload your IEP to identify written sections that may need clarification, correction, or professional review.
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